Imply that you’ve been doing something fun: “Sorry for the radio silence! I was out with a friend today. ” Send shorter messages to leave him wanting more: “Nice! Anyway, what’ve you been up to?”
Try to spend a little less time with him in the next couple weeks. If you usually leave a few afternoons for him each week, go for just one instead. Throw yourself into a new project to keep yourself busy in a positive way. Have a skill you’ve always wanted to become great at? Go learn it!
Try to see a couple new people on dating apps. Focus on having fun and enjoying your time with someone new. On the other hand, do pay attention to how you feel. Dating someone just to make someone else jealous (especially if it makes you feel bad) is never a good idea.
Hold off on asking him to text you or ask you out more often; instead, just try to enjoy the time you do spend together. At the end of the day, nobody wants a relationship where they have to ask the other person to treat them with respect and care. So this tactic is a win-win; either he puts in more effort when you pull away, or if he doesn’t, then you can take that in stride and move on to someone who does.
Say you see him passing by at school or at work. You might say something like, “Wow, Greg, I like that shirt. " Or, send him a quick, kind text, “Congrats on Carolina winning the National Championship. I know you’re probably so excited!”
Does he love the gym? Is he a regular at church? Swing by with a friend. Pro tip: avoid doing this super regularly so that you don’t freak him out. And make sure you have an excuse (“I’m getting back into fitness!”) when you do, too.
Though, as mentioned in the first method, acting distant is a great way to reel him back in when you’re already dating, acting friendly, fun, and open works well with a guy who you’re not seeing any more (or were never seeing).
Maybe you two saw the first Spiderman movie together: “Did you see the next Spiderman is coming out? Remember seeing the original way back when?” You could even clarify that for you, those were great memories: “Weather like this reminds me of our amazing weekend by the lake. I had so much fun. "
When all else fails, wear red. Even if you’re not sure about his specific preferences, red is scientifically proven to be attractive to guys. Or, just wear something that makes you feel amazing. Confidence is super attractive, too. If you wear something that lights you up, that’ll work wonders.
If you want to seem super casual, post something flattering but low-key on your story. Maybe you want him to think you’ve been living a super exciting life lately. Post about a trip or new activity, and use a mysterious caption: “Onto new things. . . "
You can never go wrong investing in yourself. You’re totally bound to grab his attention, but even things don’t go according to plan, you’re still walking away with a healthier, happier you!
Spend a day unwinding at the spa. Get a massage, a facial, and a pedicure so you walk out glowing. Or, pro tip: have a spa day at home to save some cash! Take an extra 10 minutes on your look every morning. Get rid of those flyaways, match your jewelry to your tennis shoes. . . it’s the details that matter most.
Maybe you’re going for a fitness goal. You could train for a 5k, start lifting regularly, or aim to work out a certain number of times a week. Or, perhaps you’d like to get your finances in order. Set a savings goal and hop to it!
