Consider learning meditation, which focuses on mindfulness, breathing, and centering.
No one is omnipotent or all-powerful. The future is unknown, and no amount of planning can change that. When you feel yourself getting anxious about an unknown outcome, take a few slow, deep breaths. Stay focused on your breathing and remind yourself that you can’t control everything – no one can.
Instead of focusing on being right, focus on listening to your partner and understanding them better. For example, instead of demanding that you drive to a destination because you know the route and your partner doesn’t, let your partner drive and take the route they had in mind to get there.
For example, if your partner went out with friends and they haven’t texted you back in hours, remind yourself that that doesn’t mean your partner is doing something behind your back. In the meantime, instead of worrying and doubting, get involved in one of your hobbies or make some phone calls to catch up with friends.
Ask yourself if you feel jealous because your partner is acting suspiciously or because you’ve been hurt in the past and don’t want to be hurt again.
For example, if you want to forgive your partner for cheating, be willing to believe them when they say it won’t happen again and that you can trust them. If you constantly doubt them or think they are lying, this will not help you let go.
Seek a therapist who specializes in working with couples.
For example, if you and your partner are planning to go hiking, but then your partner’s parents show up for a surprise visit, stay calm. You can reschedule your hike for the next weekend, or even invite your partner’s parents along!
For instance, if you want to see a foreign film and your partner wants to watch a big-budget action movie, find a different movie that you are both interested in seeing and go with that. You can also enjoy activities that your partner doesn’t like with your friends. For example, you could see the foreign film with your friend so that your partner doesn’t feel pressured to go.
For example, if your partner thinks it’s fine to date or sleep with other people when they’re traveling out of town but you want a monogamous relationship, you shouldn’t have to compromise on that.
